A Simple Guide to Creating a Love Notes Jar for Your Significant Other

Jun 15

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

— Lao Tzu

One of my most thoughtful friends came up with this Love Notes Jar idea, which is a beautiful gratitude practice for couples to do together, or turn into a special Valentine's or anniversary gift.

By sharing gratitude with your partner, it will open up a new positive channel of conversation within your relationship, along with reminding you of all the reasons you fell in love with each other in the first place.

I personally think practicing gratitude with another person is one of the most powerful things you can do to uplift and transform BOTH your lives.

Instructions for How to Make a Love Notes Jar

1. GET A JAR.

My friend used a simple glass gratitude jar she found on Amazon.

You could also just use a plain jar with a note describing what's contained inside the jar.

2. CUT UP LITTLE SLIPS OF PAPER IN THREE DIFFERENT COLORS.

My friend used red, yellow, and green - but you can use whatever colors are your favorite or have on hand.

Designate a paper color to go with each statement:

Red paper: Things I love about you.

Green paper: Special memories we've shared.

Yellow paper: Hopes for our future together.

Write your notes, fold them in half, and put inside the jar.

She said many of her notes were really simple, just a sentence or two, for each.

3. SHARE IT WITH YOUR PARTNER.

There are several ways to share this practice with your partner:

You both could do this practice together for 30 days and write your three love notes each day, sharing them aloud with your partner as you complete them.
Or, you could do this practice yourself and give it to your partner as a gift like my friend did.

Either way is powerful.

But do share this practice with your partner in whatever way feels best for the both of you, because it will help you gain the maximum benefits of this practice.

As the old Swedish proverb says: Happiness shared, is happiness doubled.

Rewrite Your Love Story

I remember reading years ago couples who told "positive" relationship stories about themselves stayed together longer and were significantly happier than couples who told negative stories.

This is a simple way to tell your story in a positive light.

My guess is that once you do this practice with your partner it will open them up to remembering their own special memories of you, memories you may have forgotten that will only add to your love story.

And by focusing on your hopes for the future you'll ensure your love story continues for many years to come.